3 Pathways to Deal With Stress
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Today I want to speak about the three pathways which I want to invite you to practice whenever you feel stress:
The first and most powerful thing that we can do to deal with stress is breath. When we breathe, we are telling our system that it is safe to relax and with this state, we can begin to deal with one thing at a time.
Take a moment to notice how you are breathing at this moment. I want to invite you to begin to inhale deeply and exhale into your belly, let your belly relax. And, then use this breath to connect with your whole body. If there is any part of your body with more tension, breathe towards that part. Give yourself space to feel any sensations which arise in your body.
I personally try to meditate all mornings, and I mix breathing with singing to first relax my system and then let my emotions be expressed.
2) Express your emotions.
The best way to release emotions is to let them move.
We have learnt that we need to suppress our emotions, but the truth is that when we do this, they get stuck in our bodies. If you don’t look at them and let them be expressed, they will remain inside of you. When we push our emotions down, we avoid what we are truly feeling, and this affects our nervous system.
Movement gives us the opportunity to express any emotions which are inside of us. I personally love to dance. It allows me to give space to connect with my feet, to move my hips and let my whole body tell me what it needs. Each day is different, but if you let your body move, you will see, it has a lot to say.
3) Ground yourself.
Our feet are the direct connection between our bodies and the world. When we are stressed, we bring all our awareness of our thoughts and our mind. This breaks the connection with our bodies and consequently with the world.
Move your feet, activate them and visualize your feet connecting with the ground below you. Then walk around the room, focusing your attention in keeping this connection. You will feel that when you are grounded, you are in the present moment and your body, and this allow your mind to calm down.
Find your way to discover what you need when stress kicks in in your life. Prioritize and give yourself time and space to find what you need.
If you saw yourself in any of the situations I spoke about, but you don’t know how to work on it, and you want support along this journey, that’s exactly what I do. You can book an online private session with me here
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The erotic act of kissing
Imagine this. It is sunny, you feel the warmth of the sun in your naked legs. You look to the eyes of your lover and slowly put your lips closer to his/her lips, feeling the breath of each other. You touch his thigh slowly from lower to the upper side, and then you begin to play with your lips and his/her lips. You press your chest closer to his chest and your bodies get hot. Your lips become wet and your tongues begin to play together, finding their language, their rhythm.
We used to expend hours in a situation like the one I describe above when we were teenagers. Just kissing. Then we became adults and many of us forgot about the power that something as simple as a kiss can have to turn us on.
When a relationship starts to go sour, couples usually stop kissing on the lips before they stop having intercourse. I fnd this fact fascinating.
First of all, many people tend to see sex as only the intercourse moment, but sex can be much more than just that. Another misunderstanding is that we need to learn complex skills to have a good sex life. Don’t get me wrong, new skills are always great but in my experience, that is not what will your sex life delicious.
In my experience, good sex life comes from the ability of creating intimacy with your partner and from going back to the basis. Going back to get excited about a kiss, about having the body of lover close to you, without expecting anything else.
Next time that you see your lover take your time to discover his/her lips, to touch consciously his/ her body, to play & find how the body of your lover reacts.
And then ask your lover to kiss you the way he or she likes to be kissed. It’s pure magic. Just sit back let him or her take over and enjoy. You’ll learn all kind of things.
Lots of love,